I really hate the stair stepper at the gym. My trainer knows this and yet she always seems to add it to my workouts. I was huffing and puffing on this thing early this morning and I thought to myself, “I can’t do this!” You see, my thought was an answer to a question I subconsciously asked myself. All throughout the day I was taking notice of the answers I was giving myself to subconscious questions: “I can’t take it anymore” “I”m tired” “there is no way to get everything done”, etc.
We can go throughout our days and lives answering questions without even knowing we’re posing questions. These answers then direct the choices we make. This is why it is so important to understand the questions you’re asking yourself! We need to change the questions we ask ourselves to give ourselves more productive and encouraging answers.
Each day this week I will add a blog post related to questions you can try asking yourself in different parts of your life i.e. relationships or career. Today will be the questions you can ask yourself to increase your self-awareness and personal development.
The questions I was asking myself today came from a place of scarcity. You can notice that I was telling myself “no” all throughout the day. Guess how much I got done and what my state of mind was today? Negative. I became very aware of how these questions were directing my focus and decided to change my line of questioning to get my desired response- positive steps forward.
Here are some questions to get you started:
- When I look back on today what do I want to remember?
- How can I help myself rest since my body obviously needs it?
- What can I do in this moment to help myself calm down?
- What step can I take towards achieving my goal of starting my own business?
- How can I support those around me today?
- Who can I ask to support me towards this goal?
- What resources do I need to research and ask for to move closer to my goal of becoming healthier?
- What is one way I can connect with someone who means a lot to me today?
- Who and what inspires me? Why?
- I’m feeling stressed, what things can I take off my schedule to help me relax?
- What do I like to do for fun?
- What can I learn from this experience?
- What am I proud of in my life right now?
- What am I committed to?
- What am I grateful for?
- If there were no restrictions what I would I do today?
- If there were no restrictions what would I do with my life that made it more meaningful?
Now, there are a million other questions you can ask yourself. Take sometime to write your own list of questions using some of the examples I gave above. When I feel extreme stress, pressure, or the desire to run I ask myself, “what do I need right now?” This helps me stop the spiral and become solution-focused instead of problem-focused. You’re going to ask yourselves questions constantly so you might as well be aware of the questions you’re asking and start taking back control of your thoughts.
You will notice that you may need support. We all need help identifying weak points in our lives and thats where hiring a coach can help us. Like my personal trainer who puts me on the stair stepper all the time. She knows I have goals and without her pushing me I may not attain them or understand the limitations I set for myself.
Interested in coaching? I can help. Go to my “contact” page and write me a note!